Family Relations Week 2

So on Friday, Brother Williams explained why family therapy is more beneficial than individual therapy. Lets see if I can explain adequately. A family is a complex unit made of many parts. When one person is off it throws the whole system off. In family therapy they don't look for the root of the problem, they look to help improve the family relationship. I am sure this is not always the case, but usually in individual therapy they are digging deeper and deeper to try to get to the base of a problem. This doesn't always solve things because it is bringing up anger, hurt and other difficult feelings, thus pulling the family apart more. Another thing is that you build a relationship with your therapist rather than your family members or others in your lives. Seems like it would just create more problems, no? Now I know this might be a weird example, but to me it connected. I was watching Reba the television show yesterday and Brock and Barbara Jean were having marital problems. Reba ended up having a conversation with Brock about what his therapist had been telling him and in essence, he was being told to wait it out. I don't see how that is great advice in a relationship at all. 

I suppose that goes along with my next epiphany or you could call it a paradox. In order to fix conflict in a marriage, you need to communicate with your spouse. Don't talk to your other family members or friends because that just breeds bad blood between them and your spouse. The thing I have a hard time with is, if you are mad at them you obviously don't want to talk to them. So all you married people out there,  answer me this, how do you solve the problem of communicating when you are mad at your spouse? 

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Family Relations Week 1

 My conclusion from this week is: I need to get married have ten babies and save the world. 

THE END

Don't worry folks, I'm only joking. Well kind of. After watching the movie Demographic Winter, I am shocked and quite honestly a little confused. Apparently we don't have a growing population problem, we have a shrinking population problem. Where have we been getting our info and who has been propagating it? And now you're thinking, "Oh good, less people, more resources." Well The population shrinking it not necessarily a good thing. Now I'm not going to summarize the whole movie, just bring up a few points. First, we aren't going to see more resources. Who is working to create the resources we need when there are fewer and fewer people in the population to work? Second, there are about three people working currently to provide for one person who is retired. Soon it will be a less than two to one ratio. Last is one of the main problems with population growth, the degradation of the family.

Now being a Member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I guess this may affect or maybe bother me more than others. I have been taught and believe that one of our purposes on the earth is to have children. It is our privilege to have children and to teach them. I would like to pose a question to any of my readers. (I am sure there are several. (; ) What are your reasons for having children? 

I guess I will leave it at that. Let me know what you think in the comment section. Remember honesty presented with kindness is a most effective way of communication and learning.  

What does a Fink think?

How do you like my title? Clever, right? I could have titled it Charlotte's Web, but I think we would have had some copyright issues there. So here it is, a blog with my thoughts about everything. Even though I was strongly encouraged to start this blog by my Family Relations professor, I promise to at least try to make things interesting. I may come off cheesy once in a while, but sometimes cheesy is the only way to be. I surely hope you enjoy, whether you agree or not...... And off we go!